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Rekindle is a 90-day coaching program for executives, business owners, and leaders who are still showing up, but stopped recognizing themselves in the mirror.
Rekindle is two men in honest conversation. One of whom has been where you are standing right now.
You do not need someone who read about the fog in a book. You need someone who sat in it. Who floated in it. Who found the ember late and had to tend it slowly.
You do not throw them all on at once. The order matters.
Honest inventory. This is where a man stops performing and gets real about where he actually is.
You write out what fell apart. You stop carrying it invisibly. You name the fog so it stops having power over you.
The inventory is done. Now you look for what survived. Every man in the fog has something that did not burn all the way down. A value. A relationship. A calling he buried under the noise.
You are not building anything yet. You are finding what is real.
Now you build. Not before now. The inventory from Log One and the spark from Log Two are the only foundation worth building on.
A real check-in question. Not "how are you." Something that requires honest reflection.
What did you carry into this week that you did not put down? Where did you feel most like yourself? Where did you feel least?
The silence is not filled. The real answer almost always lives in what a man says after the first thing he says.
One thread. Not three topics. The one thing that is most alive gets followed all the way down.
Ask more than tell. The questions that land are the ones that make a man stop mid-sentence because he did not know the answer until you asked it.
A coach's story does not always belong in the room.
One reflection. Something he said that deserves to be carried. Named back to him.
One resource. A book, a video, or a question to sit with before the next session.
One question to carry. Between now and when we talk again, think about this one thing.
Six bi-weekly sessions, walked through the three logs together. The deepest version of this work.
A monthly lunch for men in the work. Real conversation, no agenda, no selling. Just men sitting at a table together.
Once a quarter, five men sit down with John for a working session, then we step out into a shared experience. Intimate, intentional, built around something done together.
I was sitting alone in my new apartment. I had just separated from my wife. I sat down and wrote out every failure from the past year on a piece of paper.
I was working two lists. The failure list and the success list.
The failure list was three times longer.
That was the floor.
I want you to understand something about that floor. I did not get there because I blew everything up. I got there because I slowly stopped recognizing myself.
I built my career from nothing. I started as a bagger in a grocery chain. Through work, personal education, and relationships, I became a store manager, then a regional coach. I went on to spend fourteen years as one of the top executive recruiters in my industry. I built a team. I built a reputation. I built something real.
I did not burn it down. I lost the passion for it. It stopped being something I loved and became something I just did. And when you spend enough time doing something you no longer love, the fog finds you whether you invite it or not.
The next few weeks after that night rebuilt me enough to get back up. And then I fell again. Not dramatically. Just quietly. The kind of fog where you are still functioning, still running the business, still showing up. But you are floating. Afraid of being alone. Afraid of staying this way. Wondering what you are even looking for.
That went on for a while.
Eventually something shifted. Slowly. Not on a timeline. I walked into my parish. I met my girlfriend. The ember started coming back. As for faith, that is in my story. And if it is in yours, that helps. But if it is not, that does not preclude you.
I still see my counselor twice a month. I still have days in the faded fog. But I fight through it now. That is a different thing than floating through it.
The fog does not have to lift all at once. It just has to start lifting.
I am not a therapist. I am a man who has been where you are standing right now and came out the other side with something true.
You do not need someone who read about the fog in a book. You need someone who sat in it.
That is me. And I built this for you.
Let's get to work.
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